10 Conversation Starters That Actually Work

Why Your Current Approach Isn't Working

"So... what do you do?"

Congratulations, you've just asked the most forgettable question in networking history. It triggers rehearsed elevator pitches, not real conversation.

Here's what the research shows: 72% of people are influenced by nonverbal cues — your energy matters more than your script. But a great opener sets the tone for everything that follows.

The goal isn't to pitch. It's to be memorable.

The 10 Conversation Starters

1. "What's bringing you to [Event] this year?"

Better than "what do you do" because it's specific to the moment. People share their real motivations, not their job title.

2. "What's been the most surprising thing you've heard so far?"

Shows you're there to learn. Invites their opinion. Creates instant rapport.

3. "I saw you nodding during [speaker's] talk—what resonated with you?"

Observation-based. Shows you're paying attention. Creates a shared experience.

4. "I'm trying to meet people outside my usual circle—what industry are you in?"

Honest and disarming. Invites them to share without feeling interrogated.

5. "This is my first time at [Event]—any tips for a newcomer?"

Only use if true. People love giving advice. Makes them feel like the expert.

6. "I noticed your company just [recent news]. How's that been?"

Shows you did your research. Instantly differentiates you from lazy networkers.

7. "What's the biggest challenge your team is facing right now?"

Direct and business-focused. Opens the door to providing value.

8. "I'm curious—what made you choose this session over the others?"

Session-specific. Reveals their priorities. Easy conversation starter in workshops.

9. "Who else have you met here that I should know?"

Gets them talking about others. Builds trust. Often leads to warm introductions.

10. "What's the one thing you hope to take away from today?"

Forward-looking. Shows you care about their goals. Creates natural follow-up opportunities.

The Graceful Exit

Starting conversations is only half the battle. Ending them gracefully is just as important:

• "I don't want to monopolize your time—can I get your card?"
• "I have a session starting, but let's definitely continue this"
• "I'd love to introduce you to someone here who'd be valuable for you"

Never just walk away. Always create a reason to reconnect.

What to Do After

The conversation doesn't end when you walk away:

Immediately

• Jot a quick note on their card (or on your meeting in PFY's app) about what you discussed
• This becomes your personalized follow-up ammunition

Within 24 Hours

• Send a connection request referencing your conversation
• Deliver on anything you promised

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Great conversation starters mean nothing without great follow-up. Pinned For You helps you remember what you talked about and follow up automatically.